guljeri:
Long hair seems to be a female thing in Cardassian culture. So I often wonder about Parmak’s choice to wear his hair long.
Does he just like it long?
Is he expressing that he doesn’t gaf about gender roles?
Is he not cis?
Is he just expressing his feminine side?
Does he like for Garak to pull it?
I want to know about Parmaks’ hair.
Give me your ideas.
I’m 99% sure i-fought-space has written a dissertation on Parmak’s hair. At least, there’s 2 long posts, and his hair takes up a good chunk of one.
Personally, I think because women dominate the sciences in Cardassian culture, he originally started growing his hair out to not stick out as much. “See? I have feminine traits. My opinion can be just as valid. Don’t discount me just yet.”
As he continued, he also explored feminine fashion, more feminine speech and behavior patterns, more feminine habits, and it was just comfortable. Very comfortable. Almost alarmingly comfortable. Like more so than when he was presenting as male.
Depending on who asks, he’ll say his hair, style, and personality are a mark of his trade and a testament to his competence in doctoring, and yes, he is a man, but something like chromosomes doesn’t actually affect his skill “and don’t fall for those sexist stereotypes so easily or you’ll end up dismissing someone you shouldn’t.”
But for people he knows, and people he’s close to, he’ll admit he’s not quite sure he’s either male or female. Quietly. And even that probably takes some prying.
Because he is still unlearning a lot of things and learning about himself, because he still hasn’t had the time to actually think through it and focus on himself. He’s always managed to be busy, from his time with Tain, to the prison camp, to all the wars Cardassia had after, and then after the Dominion–he’s been too busy helping others, or surviving, or saving lives to puzzle out something that he thinks should be so simple as gender.
He knows who he is as a person. He is kind, he is strong, and he is above all else a doctor.